How to give a guy a tantric massage
Heat up the oil for an experience that's a bit spiritual and a lot sexy.
Tantra is a bit of a catch-all term that is generally used to describe the ancient traditions of meditation that focus on energy and consciousness.
In simple terms, the practice of Tantra is about embracing life, but - these days - we generally associate Tantra with intimacy and sex.
Engaging with the traditions of Tantra and benefiting from Tantric practices such as meditation isn’t limited in any way by your sexuality, but it’s fair to say that gay men have been particularly enthusiastic in embracing the opportunities that Tantra provides to get naked and get intimate with each other.
It was in the late-60s in the US that Tantra retreats and workshops specifically designed for gay men began to emerge.
Today, there’s a wealth of opportunities – both online and in-person – through which you can explore the world of Tantra and discover how focusing on your energy and consciousness can really boost your sex-life and maximise your pleasure.
How is a Tantric massage different from other massages
When someone describes their massage technique as Tantric Massage, it’s a way of applying some of the principles of Tantric meditation into a massage experience.
There’s not really any strict rules about what constitutes a Tantric Massage, it depends on the interpretation of the person who is giving the massage.
As a general rule, a Tantric Massage is going to be more intimate and erotic than other types of massage. The intention is to connect with your sexual energy and to build and intensify that during the massage.
If you've booked in for a Tantric Massage, the expectation is that you're going to get naked. It’s not essential for the masseur to also be naked, but it’s fairly common that he would be.
There's probably going to be some breathing exercises, some mindfulness - the masseur is looking to establish a connection with you.
The massage itself is likely to feel relaxing but also arousing. This isn't a therapeutic massage or some kind of pampering experience - it's all about unlocking the healing power of your sexual energy. The massage will use his hands on every inch of your body - there's going to be a lot of body-contact.
While your sexual energy will build during the massage experience, there's no pressure for you to release through an orgasm - you don't have to have a happy ending. In strict tantra terms, the objective is to usually edge that sexual energy to its peak and then hold on to that and take it with you - the theory is that you can apply that sexual energy to other aspects of your life. But if you want to take it all the way to orgasm during the massage, then that's generally going to be totally cool - lots of guys cum while having a tantric massage.
How to give a Tantric Massage
Think about the environment or the ambience of the massage space. You want to be in a quiet room, somewhere private where you’re not going to be disturbed.
While you can deliver a Tantric Massage on a massage table, a floor mat is generally the go-to set-up. A floor mat enables you to deliver a stronger physical connection throughout the massage.
Ideally, you want to be able to control the light – you don’t have to light candles, but just being able to dim the lights and draw the blinds is helpful. You also want it to be warm – remember, you’re both going to be naked.
A good quality massage oil is fairly essential for a successful Tantric Massage session. Being able to heat the oil is helpful – even if that’s just putting the bottle of oil on top of the radiator for a bit. Don’t hold back on the oil – you want every inch of skin to be greased up and glistening.
From there, the essential ingredient is communication. You don’t have to use a lot of words, but if you’re giving the massage, make sure that you’re regularly giving gentle verbal prompts such as: “Is that okay?” “Does that feel good?”
The guy that you're giving the massage to may not talk much but read the body-language - if he's moaning and his body is responding positively, you'll know that you're on the right track.
How to receive a Tantric Massage
Being in the right head-space is an important starting point.
You’re going to be getting naked. It’s a good idea to be feeling fresh and ready for that. This is not a time for body hang-ups – your masseur is going to be getting very well acquainted with every bit of your body. If you’re worried about what you look like when you’re naked, that's something you need to work on before you dive into the world of Tantric Massage.
Try and really be in the moment during the massage. That means trying to clear your head of all your day-to-day stresses. This is often why a tantric experience will start with some breathing exercises - focus on connecting with your masseur, forget about everything that's going on outside of the room, be present in your body.
When you’re receiving a Tantric Massage, the focus is all on you. You might want to give some mutual pleasure to your masseur – such as stroking his cock or sucking his cock – but it’s good to check with the masseur before you get started as to whether that’s something that’s on the table. Most guys offering a Tantric Massage will welcome mutual touch, but the boundaries may vary from guy to guy - an up-front conversation is really helpful to avoid any awkwardness or disappointment.
A massage that comes with a happy ending is great, but don’t feel any pressure that you have to cum. If you’re focused on making sure that you cum at the right time, that can detract from the overall experience of the massage. Just try and relax and let whatever happens happen. Your body knows what to do. Your body knows what you need.
